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deathgetsusall) wrote2013-01-30 07:05 pm
deathgetsusall) wrote2013-01-30 07:05 pm
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RESOLUTIONS OF THE END-OF-JANUARY VARIETY
I didn't make any New Year's Resolutions this year, because I wasn't really... satisfied with my NYR from last year, and my lack of progress on them. I tried to be practical and reasonable and work on things in manageable pieces, but it just never clicked for me. [Despite the excellent support of friends at ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
dear2012 . Thanks guys, you really helped me out. <3 ILU.]
It's taken me this long to kind of get a handle on how that makes me feel, which is part of why I didn't make NYR this year. Now that I feel a bit more settled about... everything, I kind of want to make late NYR, but I also don't? IDK it's a weird feeling. I've thought about this fir a while now, and I think I'm just going to make plain-old RESOLUTIONS, instead. Things that I want/need to do, that I'm just going to keep trying to do, with no measure of pass/fail.
Sooo... I'm starting with these things:
1.] I'm going to stop apologizing for my opinions.
They're my opinions, and I have the right to have them, even if other people disagree with them. I'm tired of this song-and-dance that seems to have become the norm when expressing ourselves. We hem and haw and say stuff like "It's just my opinion, but..." when there's no just about it! It's not just my opinion. It's my opinion, period. My opinion is not any less important than anyone else's, and I don't have to soften the blow of sharing that opinion. [handwave] Hopefully this makes sense and is not just incoherent rambling.
2.] I'm going to say "no" more often, without caveats, excuses, etc.
This is something that has bothered me for a long time. It seems like society has conditioned us [especially women] to feel ashamed of flat-out refusing things/favors/etc? I hate that. I hate that I feel like a bad person when I tell someone no. I hate that I feel like I have to make up reasons and excuses for why I'm saying no, when it's really because I just DON'T WANT TO.
3.] I'm going to write things.
Even if they're bad or I don't finish them or I never show them to anyone ever. I just need to make words appear, even if I delete them afterwards. I need to try to get back in the groove. I've been blocked off and on for a solid 5 years and I am SO DONE WITH THIS.
Welp. So that's that.
dear2012 . Thanks guys, you really helped me out. <3 ILU.]It's taken me this long to kind of get a handle on how that makes me feel, which is part of why I didn't make NYR this year. Now that I feel a bit more settled about... everything, I kind of want to make late NYR, but I also don't? IDK it's a weird feeling. I've thought about this fir a while now, and I think I'm just going to make plain-old RESOLUTIONS, instead. Things that I want/need to do, that I'm just going to keep trying to do, with no measure of pass/fail.
Sooo... I'm starting with these things:
1.] I'm going to stop apologizing for my opinions.
They're my opinions, and I have the right to have them, even if other people disagree with them. I'm tired of this song-and-dance that seems to have become the norm when expressing ourselves. We hem and haw and say stuff like "It's just my opinion, but..." when there's no just about it! It's not just my opinion. It's my opinion, period. My opinion is not any less important than anyone else's, and I don't have to soften the blow of sharing that opinion. [handwave] Hopefully this makes sense and is not just incoherent rambling.
2.] I'm going to say "no" more often, without caveats, excuses, etc.
This is something that has bothered me for a long time. It seems like society has conditioned us [especially women] to feel ashamed of flat-out refusing things/favors/etc? I hate that. I hate that I feel like a bad person when I tell someone no. I hate that I feel like I have to make up reasons and excuses for why I'm saying no, when it's really because I just DON'T WANT TO.
3.] I'm going to write things.
Even if they're bad or I don't finish them or I never show them to anyone ever. I just need to make words appear, even if I delete them afterwards. I need to try to get back in the groove. I've been blocked off and on for a solid 5 years and I am SO DONE WITH THIS.
Welp. So that's that.